Lost and Found: What brain injury survivors want you to know…


Does this apply to any people you know? Help them.

Published by Katharine

Katharine is a writer, speaker, women's counselor, and professional mom. Happily married over 50 years to the same gorgeous guy. She loves cooking amazing homegrown food, celebrating grandbabies, her golden-egg-laying hennies, and watching old movies with popcorn. Her writing appears at Medium, Arkansas Women Bloggers, Contently, The Testimony Train, Taste Arkansas, Only in Arkansas, and in several professional magazines and one anthology.

11 thoughts on “Lost and Found: What brain injury survivors want you to know…

  1. Kathy. Thank you for reporting this! My TBI causes all manner of woes: I get lost in my neighborhood, I can’t think of words, sudoku ( I was a champ!) is now challenging. I need to slow down. When I multi task (I am a mom of a teen! I gotta multi task!) everything gets so much harder! I get confused, background noise bothers me, I think of what to do and the next moment wonder why the heck I am in the living room. It is hard BUT identifying it and making small changes in my lifestyle has helped SO much. Sudoku. Just slower.

    Thank you for posting this.

    This is important stuff!

    Peace, jen

    1. Thanks, Jen, and thanks for posting it, yourself, first. I think that it is knowing you that has caused me to feel like reposting this, in case someone I know knows someone who needs it. Also, I just like the kindness expressed in it for anyone who is having a slow moment. I certainly want to be treated this way if I forget why I’m in a room! 🙂 It does cause one to think others’ motives may be totally different than they appear. AND as our dinked-with population dynamics age, who knows if we might all need this type consideration someday!

    1. Debby, how kind of you to think me sane! 😀 I shall pray long and hard about this one and you must rest assured I value your high opinion more than any badge. Get back with you soon. ❤

  2. This is wonderful, and sad, and frightening BUT mostly important, important! You’re ministering to a large crowd of women and men who appreciate your thoughtfulness and time AND specific attention. Bless you KT.

    Lovely, lovely, lovely!! I feel guilty that you were spending so much time trying to straighten out the ghost of “notshe” that you had to repost. HA HA HA, btw … still going through the “Remains of the Day”. oxoxox mel

  3. Oh, Melissa, do not feel guilty!
    I’m the one who feels guilty no matter what I do! If I cook, I feel guilty that I did not post. If I clean, I feel guilty that I did not iron. If I post, I feel guilty about all the typos and that I did not . . . you get it. I can never please me. 🙂
    However, I reposted because I wanted more people to have a chance to find this great list. I had already prepared a post for today, but delayed it so folks would see this repost, first.
    Love ya for your sensitivity. You and I shall not feel guilty over this, though. 🙂

  4. My brain injury occured on May 22, 1994. I water skied into a docked boat and emergency had to LifeFlight me to the hospital. The hospital put me in an induced coma due to brain injury.

    When they aroused me, I went through Physical Therapy and sent time going to Neuro recovery. The accident happened east of Traverse City, MI, and I went through Neuro recovery with Dr. Glenn Johnson.

    The neuro recovery lasted for 6 months and then I went back to work as an engineer. The company that I worked for did the best they could with me, then laid me off.

    I worked for about 10 years as a contract engineer in the automotive industry. When jobs slowed down for me, I could not make it on my own so I move in with my parents.

    Several jobs were tried, but could not be done. With this hanging over my head I got depressed. That last thing I should do is the first thing I did. I drank alcohol. I did not drink at home, I would drink away from home. This meant driving away from home. Two accidents were caused by me and there was no injury, but I did get two OUIs.

    My life seems like it is in a tail spin. What do I do now? I have no employment and no driver’s license. My handicap is not obvious. I get frustrated.

  5. Hello, Chris,
    Welcome to Home’s Cool, and thanks for this comment!
    I am sure you do feel frustration at all the events in your life the last ten years–I would too, if I were you.
    I am not a counselor of injured people, but I have a few ideas that you may find helpful.
    1. Do not feel bad about living with your parents. This is what family is for, to help when things are going tough for us. I am sure they would rejoice if your life took a fun turn, but I am sure they love you and are glad to help.
    2. You need to shake the alcohol. Yes, it was the worst thing to do. Join acoholics anonymous or a church program for alcoholism treatment and get that freedom back. Anything else you do before you do that could turn out to be wasted time and effort.
    3. If enineering has become a dead end for you, it may be time to re-assess your skills and aptitudes to find what else you should be doing. A skills test would help with that. If you need training for another career, so be it–do all you can to get that training.
    4. Although engineering may not work for you, could you perhaps teach it? If the colleges around you could use an engineering teacher, there is no end to the good you could do via that route.
    5. If you have not already done so, get to know Christ Jesus. He is still in the miracle business and a miracle would be so good, right now.

    Again, I am not a professional counselor of the injured, but if you follow this link, you will find someone who is:


    The person who manages this blog site is a professional nurse who was assaulted by a patient and received permanent brain injury as a result. Her site is full of information and understanding for those in your position.

    Praying you find peace and direction soon.

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