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Seven Reasons Your Christian Husband Can’t Do Better – Part 1

Sad Man

I’ve caught a bit of a cold and thought I’d take a break by re-posting a series from about a year ago. It is loaned to me from a friend who first published it in a now out-of-print magazine. Hope you enjoy it.

A man is supposed to be a container for the essence of God. He is supposed to be beautiful in his calling to contain the Almighty. There is nothing sadder than an emotionally broken, bruised, wounded, torn, scarred, weak, limping man. It should break your heart and make you cry every time you hear of one.

It breaks Jesus’ heart.

Your husband’s childhood already did enough to hurt your man. It’s time to give him a break. For God’s sake, love him. Give him space to heal.

And take it easy on your sons.

Reason Number 1

 He Is not Saved

I know, I know; we said he’s a Christian. He says he’s a Christian. Everybody, especially you, hopes he’s a Christian, but what IS a Christian?

Is it someone who claims to be a Christian?

The Word promises nothing to people who merely claim to be Christian.

All the promises of God are for those who admit sin, repent, are born again, love and obey God, love the brethren, have the Spirit of Christ Jesus in them, etc. If he is not walking by the Spirit, maybe he is not Spiritual, not born again.

Maybe, unknowingly, he is an impostor.

Solution #1 Pray him into the kingdom. Forgive him.

Stop expecting him to be able to achieve Godliness. Forgive him.

Be scrupulously careful about always submitting to him. Forgive him.

Love him for who he was meant to be. Forgive him.

Hurt with him in his lost misery. Forgive him.

Stop taking his actions so personally. Forgive him.

Beg God for grace in this time of need to minister unto him. Forgive him.

Smile more. Forgive him.

Cry out to God. Fast. Wait upon the Lord.

Be sure not to mistake occasional lapses for lostness. Most people sin. You sin. I sin.

Be sure you are more concerned with his soul than with your reputation. What will your friends think if you have an unsaved husband? Better ask what God will think if you never solicit prayer on your husband’s behalf! Make sure someone is praying for him (not for you/about him.) It will not dishonor him to tell the truth about his lost soul to sisters who are older and are true prayer warriors. Pray down the only help there is for the lost and undone.

Do not think about self in this problem. Pray constantly. Pray for him when you fold his socks, when you pack his lunch, when you wash out his bathtub. Face the truth with the joy that comes from knowing that half the work is done when we see what to do.

Have you always wished you could go to the mission field?

Maybe you are there.

Do not let your disappointment about your marriage cause you to treat your husband with any less respect or joy than you would give to the heathen in some far off country.

However you arrived in the situation within which you find yourself, remember: God saw and knew all the things you didn’t. Stop now, and re-assess your life and its meaning before God. Be kind to the provider that God has provided for you.

Never forget that your service to your husband is to be as unto the Lord. Strive to make him as happy and pleased as you can. Who else, but a wonderful Christian like you, can truly serve and comfort anyone, anyway? Serve. Be a comfort. Win him with kindness and forgiveness.

Take hope.

Be strong and courageous.

Do not fear.

God is with you.

*Image by mrhayata via Flickr

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Sunday Scriptures – Opportunity

Then He said to them, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”

And he told them this parable: “The ground of a certain rich man produced a good crop. He though to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’

Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I’ll say to myself, “You have plenty of good things laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink, and be merry.”

But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night you life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’

This is how it will be with anyone who stores up things for himself but is not rich toward God.”

Luke 12:15-21 NIV

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Opportunity – 2

Yep, I’ve decided to go with the second MISSED OPPORTUNITY from yesterday:

Yesterday, I also included a photo of the flag furled in a way that sort of folded itself over itself, and with the sun backlighting it, it made a sort of checkered pattern. I remember I captioned it “Stars and Checks”. Oh well. It was fun while it lasted, but evaporated, funwise and WYSI-wise, the moment I clicked “publish”. Too bad. Now it is just sheer determination that makes me bow to the necessity of posting twice in order to post two photos. Here it is, such a rare moment, for me, a newbie photographer. I was glad for the OPPORTUNITY when I had it and glad to share with those who care to look, now:

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Flag 2

Hope you enjoy the shot.

I did.

Oh, and the link for Part 1 is here. It sort of explains this post. So sorry it has to be this way, evidently.

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Opportunity

This is my second attempt to post on this topic.

Yesterday, I prepared an essay with photos that did not publish right. Well, actually, it morphed, the moment I clicked “publish”, into an unrecognizable monster, even on the “add new post” page! This happens almost every time I try to use more than one photo per post and I can prove it by showing you all my deleted posts, which are all infused with the same trouble: lost photos, all text crammed under a photo as its caption, captions switched from one photo to another. Crazy stuff. I wish I knew why. I have changed themes. I have upgraded my everything. To no avail.

So, here we are, me trying again, and you thinking I never post. A few caught yesterday’s, kind souls who will “like” almost anything, but I know what I typed and I know what posted instead. What you see is not always what you get: WYSINAWYG!!!

Ahem. I digress.

Here is the first photo:

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Flag

I am not bothering with the darling captions I thought up yesterday. Can’t remember them, anyway, nor can I remember the text. The gist of it was that I always try to carry my camera and this was an unusual photo OPPORTUNITY because it was a gusty day for wind and the sun was setting at the same time. I also inserted a photo of that actual sunset and another of the flag in an interesting furl. Not going there today. Will have to make three posts to show three photos, until the day comes when . . .

Anyway, it is usual for the wind to die down during sunset, but since it kicked up on this day, instead, I found the flag backlit and unfurled for brief moments. Had to take about 20 shots to get one straight-lined like this.

It was fun. I was having fun sharing it, too. Now I am just determined not to let the machines in the sky beat me.

Sighs.

Posted in Homemaking, Inspiring, Wisdom

About to Crack Up?

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Cracked Up

An amazing thing happened last night–I broke a drinking glass. The amazing thing is how it happened.

I was being careful. I just set the glass on the table and accidentally gave it the tiniest bump with my pinky, as I moved away from the setting.

Being empty and therefore somewhat top-heavy, over it went.

It let out the teensiest clink that did not sound normal at all, and when I glanced its way, the above shard is what I saw.

Is it amazing, or what?

So, ever the boring analyzer, I began to think about myself and how easy I might be to crack up, if all conditions were right.

Obviously, this poor victim glass had some strong points.

Do I?

Obviously, though, it also had been knocked around just enough to be weak.

Have I, also?

I could see it is more balanced when it is not empty. Never really knew that, but now I can see a decent load of milk or water would have anchored it.

How about me? Am I trying to hold my own against a few pushes or shoves while sitting on “empty”?

And if I crack up, will I let out a teensy complaint? Or a huge one?

And if I content myself with a teensy complaint, will anyone notice and find a use for the broken pieces?

A big YES on that one. Yes, He will.

What do you say?

Posted in Blessings of Habit, Home School, Inspiring, Photos, Pre-schoolers, Scripture, Wisdom

Our Rewarder God

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GOOD JOB! I KNEW YOU COULD DO IT!

Everyone who comes to God must believe these two things:

  1. That He exists
  2. That He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

This is truth, according to His Word, which is what we must accept if we accept that He is there to deny, to hate, to dispute, to blame, to doubt, to question, to quote, to copy, to seek, to find, or to acknowledge.

Another truth: all God-haters must admit He exists or their whole life-work has been wasted, right? Same for blamers, questioners, etc. They just miss, entirely, the BENEFITS of His existence, because they do not, also, believe that He rewards, and would joyfully reward THEM.

But He does. He would.

So, it is mandatory to reward our children; we must raise them up in the discipline of the Lord. Reward is one way He disciplines us.

“What?!” you say. “I thought discipline meant things like time-out or skipping dessert!”

While unpleasant consequences are, indeed, a valid part of discipline, God’s Word also shows us that He adds rewards to His method of discipline, which He has commanded us to use.

Why do we fear rewards? I have heard parents say, “I refuse to bribe my children to do right.”

Again, we show our ignorance, because, according to the Word of Him Who requires we do right, bribery—rewarding to do WRONG—is wrong, and rewarding to do right is right.

God’s discipline also includes praise. Consider this: “Well done, thou good and faithful servant . . . ” Or: “This is My Beloved Son, in Whom I AM well pleased . . . “ We cannot deny that He does praise us, also.

So we should praise our own. This is truth.

There is one facet of all this truth that escapes notice, though.

Humility.

His Word says, “Humble yourself, therefore, under the mighty hand of God and He will exalt you in due time.”

His Word says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

As one of His most famous followers said, “He must increase; I must decrease,” and “I am not worthy even to untie His shoe . . .”

We sometimes hear someone who has received great praise saying something like, “Oh, you are setting me up for a fall!” referring to the Scripture that reads, “Pride goeth before a fall . . . “

Still we should praise and reward good jobs, wherever we see them, and especially in our children’s lives. Missing this facet of childhood has caused many adults to grow up warped, never praised, never rewarded, and also never pitied and probably never sent to the corner or switched when they needed that. Undisciplined, they grow up with no self-discipline and probably no healthy concept of God, either, since we learn those from our parents.

Many adults fail to praise or reward other adults, though, and a job well done can make a hurting person jealous. People raised wrong envy beauty, industry, discipline, etc., and often grow snarky instead of praising. We just have to forgive them.

However, it is God, not people, Who watches our ways to give us joy. Humans will praise and reward us, if that is God’s chosen pathway for our praise and rewards to come, but only in due time. He may, though, choose to use His audible voice, instead! Or, our rewards may mostly come in the next life.

But we don’t care. It is a joy to wait upon the Lord. So we patiently seek out His will and try hard to do right, for the joy of pleasing Him, and we humbly wait for that due time, when He will, most assuredly, reward us. Because He IS a rewarder.

And for the snarky-jealous? Maybe we should find some way to give them a bit of the praise they never got during childhood?