Reason # 5
He Is Under Demonic Control
No, I don’t mean your husband is necessarily communicating with demons, but others are serving the enemy by trying to take over his life. Does this seem impossible?
Solution # 5: To beat this tricky problem, realize that only God has the right to issue authority. He is the ultimate Authority and controls the entire universe His way. Exodus 15:18 If you can’t understand this principle, learn it soon, because it is vital to joy and peace in the Lord.
How could your husband fall out of line with God’s authority, although he claims to love the Lord?
Does he have a parent who tells him what, how, or when? (He should have left them when he cleaved to you.)
Does a “friend” lean heavily upon him for help, advice, entertainment, or other time-consumers? (He is missing time with his family and his God.)
Does his work situation demand his constant early arrival and late departure? (Although his boss is a legitimate authority, perhaps he needs a new job.)
Is he in crippling debt? Has he made a contract, or agreement (covenant) with the unGodly? He needs to get out, very quickly, if at all possible.
The above are examples of avenues for demonic control.
A Christian man is supposed to be a uniquely sovereign entity, subject only to the Lord and His delegated ones (Matthew 4:10). The enemy, unable to reach him directly, has used someone else to do the job.
What can you do? Not much, unless you consider prayer the catalyst for most of the changes in God’s Kingdom.
Pray with all your might that your husband will have grace to see that only God—or His delegated authorities—should stand over his shoulder, consuming his energies, planning his days and nights. Don’t try to tell, teach, nor command him to do so, though. Pray and wait upon the Lord.
Only, ONLY if your husband asks should you offer insight. Only if he asks should you explain or request a change.
In one area, though, you can do much to affect a change and set your husband free to become God’s man: the realm of your own control over your husband, which is not supposed to happen. HE is God’s legitimate authority over YOU, not vice-versa.
Your husband’s desires or needs should plan your day, not vice-versa.
Your husband should choose the lifestyle you both attempt, not vice-versa.
Maybe your husband came from a matriarchal home, and expects you to dominate him. He may have no idea you desire him to lead. Has it been too easy to take over where your mother-in-law left off, controlling the little boy who barely guesses at the possibility of manhood? As a keeper-at-home, do you enjoy being the authority of this small kingdom, in exchange for a larger one in the business world? Do you like having your way so handily?
Do you have a puppet husband?
If so, repent. You have participated; you have contributed. No amount of explanation will change him, especially at first. The best thing is to submit. Send the children to him for decisions and do not argue. Ask his advice and do not argue. Do not whine. Do not bring it up again when you think he is in a better mood. Do not make that face that only you and he know is an argument, all by itself.
Only when he asks is it time to explain, to confess, and to cry. Before the idea births in him is too early. Just decrease so he can increase. Let him scale a height or two and catch a glimpse of the vision, first.
Otherwise, you risk molding for yourself a nice, authoritative-appearing puppet. What you really want is that God would mold you a real man.
I often wondered how someone like Eve or Sarai could talk someone like Adam or Abram into acting against the amazing revelations they received. (Gen. 3:6, 16:2) Or, how about Rebekah?
Then, when I am honest, I know how it happened. I have seen my fingerprints on God’s clay before. It only takes a look, a sigh, a tear…a little silence correctly placed. You know, too.
Take your hands off the clay and let God work. God is the potter, not you. It’ll take time. It may take a lifetime. This may be your real reason for living. Did God choose you for the highly Spiritual work of tooling a man out of clay? Lie down, then, and be a tool ready, and in His easy reach.
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5 thoughts on “Seven Reasons Why Your Christian Husband Can’t Do Better – Part 5”
I have really been enjoying this series! I try to go out of my way to allow my husband to make decisions. By placing myself in submission to him, I am in essence, making a leader out of him. That’s what I want for him and me both. It seems like an oxymoron, but by submitting to him, I actually have more say in his destiny as a leader. Does that make sense?
Amy, thanks so much for this comment! Yes, you do make sense to me. I have known a few ladies who wished that their husband was a pastor and came to me with their sorrows over it. I always tell them that if he is to be a leader in the church, he must first have his family in order, according to the Word. So–the best thing they can do is be in order ahd help the children be in order. It will make his first job so much easier. They often do not want to hear that, though. I am always glad to know one more sister who “gets it”. 🙂
I said “obey” in my vows. My friends were shocked- but I stand by it!!
Hello, Sanstorm! Thanks for this encouragement! So many are shocked by truth. It’s just one more expression of the truth, isn’t it? I am glad for you in more ways than you might expect. 😉