An Anatomy of Pain

sad woman lying down

This is not about physical pain, although all women, and especially all wives, are great experts at physical pain. After having 6 children and around 2000 migraines, I certainly am.

But this is about the pain that attacks your soul, the confusion, indecision, and heartbreaks that can blindside us all.

Like when the doctor tells you morning sickness is all in your head.

Let’s just face it: The happenings in life are often unfair. We devote a third of our government to being sure life is fair, but unfairness still slips in, doesn’t it? A lot, right? It’s not enough that a child dies, but it sometimes must be that someone killed him. It’s not enough that a woman loses her husband, but sometimes it must be that some other woman stole him. It’s not enough that a house burns down, but sometimes it must be that an arsonist started a forest fire.

Isn’t that how it goes?

And it hurts most when friends and family are the perpetrators, doesn’t it? When your child is ungrateful, it hurts more. When your husband is lazy, it hurts more. When someone at church lies about you, it hurts more.  When your mother gets on your case, it hurts more.

Sometimes that’s just how it goes.

And sometimes, even that is not enough. Sometimes we also must go through these hurts alone. Having no defenders makes it tougher. Having no one to confide in intensifies it. Having no one just hurts. More.

Since I’ve been experiencing considerable pain, lately, I thought talking to you would help me keep my brain right-side up. Oh, I’ll share no real details, but generalities should be enough to help you help me help you. What about it?

Wouldn’t it be a good thing if we could turn our hurts into help for others?

I’m in. Let’s take a week to do an autopsy on mental and emotional pain. Let’s take every part out and learn what goes wrong and how to right it.

Maybe you know someone else you could share this with. Or send it to.

Maybe we all can feel better, think straighter, laugh more.

More tomorrow.

Published by Katharine

Katharine is a writer, speaker, women's counselor, and professional mom. Happily married over 50 years to the same gorgeous guy. She loves cooking amazing homegrown food, celebrating grandbabies, her golden-egg-laying hennies, and watching old movies with popcorn. Her writing appears at Medium, Arkansas Women Bloggers, Contently, The Testimony Train, Taste Arkansas, Only in Arkansas, and in several professional magazines and one anthology.

2 thoughts on “An Anatomy of Pain

  1. There are some hurts that run so deep they cause brain damage to the front lobe, the part of our brain that helps us to make good decisions. Having people to listen to, to talk with, makes such a great difference. The best hurt healers are those who have experienced the same pain. With the comfort God has given us, we comfort each other. I hope you are feeling better! Six children and 2000 migraines…. your compassion well has been dug very deep!

    1. Hello, Susan, and WELCOME to Home’s Cool! Thanks so much for this insightful comment!
      My compassion well…hmm. That’s a new term to me, but the more I think of it, the more I like it.
      Brain damage–must be why I nearly fainted after a particularly vicious meeting, one night. Nothing like a large group of antagonists to cut off your oxygen supply! 😀
      Of course, I’m better. I stopped doing childbirth, stopped having migraines, and forgave! Lots of difference in the new me! I would not offer hope if I did not know the source of it!
      So glad you stopped by and I hope I find you here, again, soon!

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